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How to Use Questions to Free Yourself From Negative Emotions and Gain a Position in Power

How to Use Questions to Free Yourself From Negative Emotions and Gain a Position in Power

Keeping negative emotions in yourself is one of the most important causes of failure. This, of course, is not to say that you must be pollyannaic (a person who is always positive and happy, even if the sky falls on his family). Yes, some negative emotions are important, if not necessary, for you to feel, such as sadness when a loved one dies, or a little guilt when you do something wrong to someone and you want to apologize. A moderate dose of this type “needs” healthy negative emotions. However, the trap comes when you wallow in this emotion for a long period of time. You just can’t get yourself to “move on” when you “really, really, really” want.

No matter how much positive pollyannaic thinking you apply, no matter how many times you repeat your affirmations, no matter how much you try to just ignore your emotions, they just keep coming back to haunt you.

Now let’s see how we can overcome it:

First, we must examine the root causes of negative emotions. We must find the basis on which this negative emotion stands and uproot it from the field of your mind.

For most of us, triggers that trigger the most negative emotions are usually external events that occur to us, which are usually beyond our control. This is not your fault. Instead, it’s healthier to focus on things that are within your sphere of influence, those factors that you control.

By doing this, by only focusing on optimizing your strength for what you have control over, you are, in fact, contributing to the expansion of your sphere of influence, and therefore, you will have more things that you have control over, thus , maximize your effectiveness.

  • The more you focus on what you control,
  • The more things you can control.
  • The more things you can control,
  • The more effective you become.

Negative emotions can also be an event that is within our control. And this is all better to deal with. The key now is to identify what has caused you to not achieve what you want which then triggers your negative emotions.

This is where you can use effective questions to ask yourself what has really caused you to (frankly) fail.

Ask the most important questions-why?

But what about negative emotions that are only “out of the blue”, without the need for it to be triggered by an external event at all? If you can use the above relentless technique why with this, you will find that somewhere from your past, there is an event that caused this negative emotion to occur.

And also, sometimes, quick fixes to external events that trigger our negative emotions just can’t heal us from the emotional wounds this causes us.

This is where more effective questions come. Not affirmations, not positive thinking, not thinking happy happy thoughts. You need some questions that are really deep and very effective.

The first step – the clearing process.

Ask yourself:

  • How do I feel?
  • How do I really feel?
  • Am I sure I really feel this? Or is it something else? Other emotions masquerading as emotions now?
  • Do I want to feel it?
  • Do you answer yes or no to the questions above, ask-
  • Why do I want / Don’t I want to feel this?
  • What will be the negative consequences of me feeling these emotions for a long period of time?
  • Do I want this negative consequence?
  • How painful can these negative consequences be?
  • What will be the positive consequences of me getting rid of these emotions?
  • Do I want these positive consequences?
  • How can fun & fun can these positive consequences be?
  • What will I get from freeing myself from these negative emotions?
  • Is it possible that this negative emotion is the very cause of my current state of failure?
  • Is it possible that if I break away from these negative emotions, I will finally achieve the success that I want?
  • The two-step motivating process.
  • Next, ask yourself the questionthese questions:
  • What do I want to feel?
  • What do I want to feel?
  • Why should I want to feel this more resourceful, positive emotions?
  • How can I feel this more resourceful, positive emotions?
  • What if I could feel positive emotions that are more resourceful now?
  • How does it feel to feel these positive emotions now?

By doing this, by only focusing on optimizing your strength for what you have control over, you are, in fact, contributing to the expansion of your sphere of influence, and therefore, you will have more things that you have control over, thus , maximize your effectiveness.


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